bcachefs: Fix a deadlock in bch2_btree_node_get_sibling()

bcachefs: Fix a deadlock in bch2_btree_node_get_sibling()

There was a bad interaction with bch2_btree_iter_set_pos_same_leaf(),
which can leave a btree node locked that is just outside iter->pos,
breaking the lock ordering checks in __bch2_btree_node_lock(). Ideally
we should get rid of this corner case, but for now fix it locally with
verbose comments.

Signed-off-by: Kent Overstreet <kent.overstreet@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: Kent Overstreet <kent.overstreet@linux.dev>