hw/xen: Set XenBackendInstance in the XenDevice before realizing it

hw/xen: Set XenBackendInstance in the XenDevice before realizing it

This allows a XenDevice implementation to know whether it was created
by QEMU, or merely discovered in XenStore after the toolstack created
it. This will allow us to create frontend/backend nodes only when we
should, rather than unconditionally attempting to overwrite them from
a driver domain which doesn't have privileges to do so.

As an added benefit, it also means we no longer have to call the
xen_backend_set_device() function from the device models immediately
after calling qdev_realize_and_unref(). Even though we could make
the argument that it's safe to do so, and the pointer to the unreffed
device *will* actually still be valid, it still made my skin itch to
look at it.

Signed-off-by: David Woodhouse <dwmw@amazon.co.uk>