sch_ets: make est_qlen_notify() idempotent

sch_ets: make est_qlen_notify() idempotent

est_qlen_notify() deletes its class from its active list with
list_del() when qlen is 0, therefore, it is not idempotent and
not friendly to its callers, like fq_codel_dequeue().

Let's make it idempotent to ease qdisc_tree_reduce_backlog() callers'
life. Also change other list_del()'s to list_del_init() just to be
extra safe.

Reported-by: Gerrard Tai <gerrard.tai@starlabs.sg>
Signed-off-by: Cong Wang <xiyou.wangcong@gmail.com>
Link: https://patch.msgid.link/20250403211033.166059-6-xiyou.wangcong@gmail.com
Acked-by: Jamal Hadi Salim <jhs@mojatatu.com>
Signed-off-by: Paolo Abeni <pabeni@redhat.com>