bpf/bpf_get,set_sockopt: add option to set TCP-BPF sock ops flags

bpf/bpf_get,set_sockopt: add option to set TCP-BPF sock ops flags

Currently the only opportunity to set sock ops flags dictating
which callbacks fire for a socket is from within a TCP-BPF sockops
program.  This is problematic if the connection is already set up
as there is no further chance to specify callbacks for that socket.
Add TCP_BPF_SOCK_OPS_CB_FLAGS to bpf_setsockopt() and bpf_getsockopt()
to allow users to specify callbacks later, either via an iterator
over sockets or via a socket-specific program triggered by a
setsockopt() on the socket.

Previous discussion on this here [1].

[1] https://lore.kernel.org/bpf/f42f157b-6e52-dd4d-3d97-9b86c84c0b00@oracle.com/

Signed-off-by: Alan Maguire <alan.maguire@oracle.com>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20240808150558.1035626-2-alan.maguire@oracle.com
Signed-off-by: Martin KaFai Lau <martin.lau@kernel.org>