netfilter: nft_compat: use refcnt_t type for nft_xt reference count
Using standard integer type was fine while all operations on it were
guarded by the nftnl subsys mutex.
This isn't true anymore:
1. transactions are guarded only by a pernet mutex, so concurrent
rule manipulation in different netns is racy
2. the ->destroy hook runs from a work queue after the transaction
mutex has been released already.